When and How to Talk of One's Self : Page 201

As a criterion it might be said that the most intimate revelations should be reserved for the confessor or the psychiatrist, that all intimate conversation between trusted friends should begin or stop a full degree above that. Another rule might be that a person should not confide as fully in any friend as he does in his diary. With these reservations everyone should certainly share his inner feelings, hopes and doubts, ambitions and dreams with someone — a friend, a parent, a brother or sister, wife or husband. I would add that it is good for married people to have each, in addition to their mate, one confidential friend in whom they can confide among other things some of their marital joys and sorrows. This seems to me to constitute a kind of insurance against someday confiding them to a divorce judge.