Personality Adjustment for Conversation : Page 173

Elders have no right unceremoniously to question young people upon such matters. At best, such questions cause secret embarrassment and resentment, at worst they lead to a habit of dishonesty. Even parents should be careful not to ask bluntly questions that a child may be tempted to, and can easily, evade with a lie. In general elders should employ the same tact in questioning young people as in questioning their equals. This very tact and consideration, if accompanied by the ingenuity of throwing out opportunities and suggestions, will easily enough elicit all the confidences and information to which an elder has a right and which it is proper and wise for the young person to give.